You can’t coach them unless you know what turns you on.
And how can you know what turns you on unless you know a little something about sex? While technique is no replacement for emotional connection, “the couple with their act together sexually know how to create ambience and be uninhibitedly sensual and playful.
Rosenau’s not suggesting you create some military regimen where you have sex for one hour every Monday and Thursday evening. Does it make your husband glow to have his ego stroked a bit?You expect them to love you for who you are; do the same for them.“You reap the benefit (or destructiveness if you stay obsessive) of nurturing and helping your partner revel in sexual appeal… This is discussed in detail in my previous article, Christian Counseling for 3 Myths About Marriage Fights. We do not encourage introducing animals into your lovemaking.Unconditional love and acceptance and affirmation set the temperature for some fantastic sex.” (2-3)This is such a cliché, but it’s true. While a lot of couples blame sexual dysfunction on being married too long rather than the real problem, emotional friction, there is something to be said for changing it up once in a while. Does your wife keep a stack of Harlequin romance novels hidden in the closet?Assuming you grew up in church, talking about sexual preferences and interests may make you squeamish, but put on your adult underpants and deal with it. Go all-out on a cliché-romantic evening, even the goofy rose petals up the stairs.
They were unabashedly celebrating God-given physical union until dawn.“There is no replacement for what God intended sex to do for intimate marriages.