Sure, they’re kind of snoozy, but they’ll set the tone for your date, and give you immediate things to talk about: “ 1.
What do you do, and how long have you been doing it?
The trick to successfully vetting a prospect on a first date, while simultaneously keeping the energy light and fun, is knowing what questions to ask and how to ask them. What are their likes and dislikes, what do you have in common, what does he or she do in their spare time?
For example, work, his or her family, hobbies, pop culture, and favorite music are all surefire bets. If you’re savvy, you’ll realize that certain questions–even the most basic ones—have the ability to tell a lot about a person.
Unless you've both decided to have a formal session of getting to know each other by asking any questions that have been on your mind, keep things low-key.
Let the questions follow each other naturally as the conversation unfolds.
You don't want your date to feel like an interrogation or a job interview, so you'll have to take special precautions to make the question and answer process more bearable.
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A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply your date things, although—given the fact that we never know how comfortable others are with casual conversation—that might be easier said than done. Where exactly do you live in [insert your city or town here]? Questions over the first drink should be an equal mix of inquisitive and casual, and should allow you to start gauging his or her true personality.
Time to seal the deal—the last few minutes of a date are crucial to make sure a second date happen.
Do you have any fun plans for the rest of the weekend?
Ask one of the lighter questions and follow that path until you get to a point where you can ask more serious ones.