"We were in a very, very, very bad, painful place and have managed to step through it, and I hope that gives some people some hope who may be in the same place. Anything else is overindulgent and unnecessary right now."Kidman, who says she and Urban never spend more than 13 days apart and that they "start to hurt after seven days," says she and her Grammy-winning hubby were a perfect match from the moment they met, though not for the fairy-tale reasons."I think we were two lonely people. Who do I jump on the bed with, and celebrate with, and order pancakes with?
I would probably say that two very lonely people managed to meet at a time when they could open themselves to each other."Kidman said her feelings of loneliness were exacerbated after winning the 2003 Best Actress Oscar for ."It felt big. You're in a hotel, and you're like, okay well, I'm sitting in this big suite with an Oscar, and I still don't have a life. "Still, Kidman wasn't lonely for long, though Urban wasn't the first to attempt to fill the void."I get engaged, and I get married—that's my thing," she said, revealing to the magazine that she was briefly engaged in the time between her split from Cruise and her coupling with Urban.
Cruise, she would essentially be killing her career."I was appalled," she says in the article. I'm in love, and I don't care if it's shooting myself in the foot, I'd much rather be married and have a family."I just saw a guy who rides around on a motorbike and happens to be the biggest movie star in the world.
I didn't think it would happen so early, but it did."While Kidman opted not to reveal the circumstances surrounding either the miscarriage or the adoption of her daughter, followed just two years later by the adoption of her son, she does hint that there were extenuating circumstances that would, for now, remain untold."There's a complicated background to that, given that I never speak much about many things.
The notorious rocker and leather-pants-wearer’s daughter Zoë, also an actor and musician, was cast alongside Kidman in the show—making for an easy working relationship between the two, given their shared history.
“Well, I knew Zoë because I was engaged to her father. I love Lenny; he’s a great guy,” Kidman told She and Kravitz dated briefly back in 2003, after Tom Cruise and Kidman’s marriage had ended.
I have no regrets in that relationship."Ditto her current marriage.
Despite a rocky start, with Urban checking into the Betty Ford Clinic just four months after tying the knot with Kidman last year, she says they have come out of the experience much stronger."I'm more than willing to walk it with him," she says of her support of Urban's recovery.
And as for Zoë Kravitz’s opinion of her could-have-been step-mom?