Like Ali, fifteen-year-old Eleanor* from Philadelphia--a straight-A student and competitive horseback rider--didn’t seem like a girl who’d fall for one of the loner guys at school.
That is until James,* a good-looking senior who was somewhat of a rogue, asked her out.
It seemed that nothing was unattainable for Ali*--a Manhattan-based high school sophomore with a near- perfect GPA, a stellar SAT score, and a starting spot on the varsity lacrosse team.
Then she met Trevor.*Trevor was prone to cutting class, had quit the soccer team, played bass in a punk band, and hadn’t even started thinking about college.
And why would that make me unworthy of a future I’ve worked so hard for?
” Dowdle said she told her parents about a year ago that she was dating a man named Michael.
She did not state where she intended to attend college.
"But if he’s getting into serious trouble, that’s when an intelligent girl should know to draw the line.""It doesn’t help," Carey points out, "that pop culture keeps us constantly infatuated with the notorious, not-so-nice guy." It’s true: With his trademark leather jacket and rebel-without-a-cause attitude, the bad boy has become a staple in the script of nearly every high school rom-com and TV series.
That summer, Maddie says she frequently lied to her family, snuck out at night, and ended up getting a citation for underage drinking. "By the end of the summer, I’d lost the respect of my parents and a few of my closest friends."Motives behind dating bad boys can range from wanting to be more like them, as in Maddie’s case, to wanting to reform or tame them, as in Ali’s.
But, according to Susan Carey, a Boston-based psychiatrist, what any girl dating a bad boy should consider is just how dangerous they really are.
He also said “it was never about race” but rather that his daughter started dating him in secret.
Allie Dowdle said she and Swift saw each other discretely for a year, but that they both approached her parents about a month ago.