“So you don't repeat the same mistakes over and over again.” Most good love is a slow burn — it takes a while to develop, Gandhi said.
Go to a therapist to see why you’re depressed; get a trainer if you haven’t been exercising, and visit a nutritionist to begin eating right. “The idea is that you have to train for everything, and you have to train for love as well,” Schwartz said. You’re not a finished product unless you’re dead.” RELATED: Does dating feel like an 'unpaid internship'?Bite the bullet and try online dating for a big pool of potential candidates, Schwartz added.If you’re already online, try a different dating site.Good men and good women are everywhere — if you’re looking, noted Bela Gandhi, a TODAY contributor and founder of the Smart Dating Academy in Chicago.She’s amazed people often complain they don’t meet anyone, but then go out and keep their heads down the entire time, staring at their devices.
Put the effort in to find someone, but don’t act like any breathing body will do.