It's not about who wins or loses, but who is big enough to apologize for the greater good of the relationship. I'm well into my second act (as my husband passed away four years ago) and I think I'm finally getting the hang of it. What I've learned from my past relationships Men are from Venus, women are from Mars, and that no self-help book can substitute for true love and strength during trying times.
For the first time in a long time, I can truly say I'm happy, and I think happiness tends to be contagious. The meal ends and without telling me where we're going, you take my hand, we hop in a cab and end up eating chocolate fondue at the Velvet Room and washing it down with a bottle of champagne. At this point in my life, I don't need any strife, so if it doesn't come easily, it's probably not right. I only sleep four hours a night because I get a lot more accomplished when I'm awake than when I'm asleep.
I'm financially stable and love life, so I do get out and enjoy the finer things - a Caribbean cruise, an original Miro painting, season tickets at the Met - but those things, while enjoyable, are entirely secondary to my family. A warm hug, a kiss on the cheek and the anticipation of knowing that there's a lot more in store for us in the future makes it a perfect first date. My perception of an ideal relationship I wake up before you (of course, I wake up before roosters do). I make eggs and toast and fresh squeezed orange juice because I want to. Also, you should always trust your gut and never, ever go to bed mad. It's what I do by day to keep me from selling drugs or betting on the ponies. I like watching PBS documentaries (anything by Ken Burns: The Civil War, Baseball, Jazz), but I still play poker with the same three guys for the past 18 years. It doesn't mean you should discard them if there's no love connection.
My adult children (30 and 27) are the light of my life, the source of my pride, my raison d'etre. About the one I'm looking for I want to focus on the positive because I'm a glass half-full kind of person, but the one thing I'm NOT looking for is a lonely old man to take care of and cook for. About me I'm okay on my own, but I'd rather share my life with someone special. My marriage ended six years ago, so I'm past the tough part and looking forward to meeting some new people that I probably wouldn't ever get to meet unless they were in the hospital. I enjoy my profession, but it's not the be-all and end-all. I do charity at a local homeless shelter, I jog 3 miles each morning, and I'm an avid amateur photographer. About the one I'm looking for You never cease to amaze me with your wit, your charm, your smile, your warmth, your compassion, your energy, your very being. My idea of our perfect first date For lack of a better phrase, I'm ‘old school'. I'm a gentleman and a romantic and if you don't feel you've been treated like a queen by me, then you weren't paying close enough attention. My perception of an ideal relationship Marriage would be nice, but I've been there and done that. And if you don't know this stuff by now, I'm afraid I don't have time to teach you.
Follow these 5 simple steps and you'll be on your way: 1. About me My best buddy just got engaged off of this site and his fiance's a total winner, so I figured I might as well give this a shot. The Old Man and the Sea, Fight Club, and Rum Punch... If you haven't found anything in common with me yet...let's just hope that opposites attract. My perception of an ideal relationship We spend lots of time together, but not an unhealthy amount.Love unconditionally and give more than you receive.And if it's right, you'll feel like you're the lucky one in the relationship.We appreciate each others' good qualities and can laugh at each others' bad qualities.And if you don't think you have any bad qualities, well, that's a bad quality right there.
About the one I'm looking for I'm proud to say I've kicked my "bad boy" habit, but that doesn't mean I want a nice guy who bows to me when I enter the room and has no opinion of his own. A spontaneous guy is hard to find - the kind of guy who will take my hand and say, "Today we're going white water rafting," and then throw me my bathing suit.