Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.
Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.
That’s how the vast majority of first and second dates go.
Either you’re going to blow them off or they’re going to blow you off.
You seem like a great catch, though, and I wish you the best of luck in your search.” That’s not too harsh, is it? Listen, all of us have been blown off before and I’d venture to guess that 90% of the time it’s not because you did something “wrong” like cuss out the waiter or refuse to wear pants in the restaurant.
How about writing a quick email that says, “I had a fun time last night, but didn’t feel that necessary ‘click’ to move things forward.
For more advice, check out our top tips for writing your online dating profile. Again, don’t panic – it doesn’t have to be the best, most perfect subject line in the history of dating sites. If your match mentions loving a specific film, use a quote from it as your subject.
I blow off thee quickly, at a wrong turn of phrase. By hiding after saying, “I’ll talk to you soon.” By calling during thy lunch break at noon. I know you’re asking the question because you’re trying to be sensitive, but face it – you can’t be too sensitive when you’re dating.
No, for the most part, the first dates that don’t turn into second dates are all going to fall under the umbrella of “lack of chemistry.” So what’s the value of discussing it?
Evan, what kind of ‘constructive feedback’ did you give when asked?
I’d be suspicous of someone’s motives for asking such a question.
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