" except for aging pageant queens and John Mellencamp. I know this because I once worked with a 42-year-old man who was skipping his daughter’s birthday because "she’ll have one every year, but you never know when they’re going to shut down Burning Man for good."True, another factor is judgment from other people, who may see a 44-year-old going to dinner with a 25-year-old and make judgments about which one of them is drowning in student loan debt.If only I could tell them how many broke, destitute middle-aged guys I’ve slept with, and challenge their ugly stereotypes.
As anybody who’s ever had to play "What are your top five favorite movies? A fantastic woman several years my senior recently told me I should only date older men, because even though I’m 28, "being in your twenties is a form of functional retardation." I think there’s a grain of truth there, if only because I don’t know anybody who looks back and thinks, "Man, how awesome was I in my twenties?And on the other hand, unless you’re going out with somebody she’s young, I don’t think it’s cause for judgment.Being predatory is just plain gross on either side of the equation, either from young people looking to trade sex for free Hulu Plus, or old people suffering conversation with somebody who I don’t have to tell you that the only people who get to decide whether you’re enjoying each other as people are you and your dinner companion.I learned this from experience, but also from Ludacris.Like height or body type, age is one of those strange things about a person that we know they can’t help, but nevertheless handily use to write them off.