In 2012, Fet Life found itself at the center of a controversy regarding its policy that users pledge not to "make criminal accusations against another member in a public forum".
An account is required to view content on Fet Life, although membership is free.
Users, on an Event's page, can indicate that they "will attend" or "might attend". There are 12 possible "sexual orientation" choices, plus "Not Applicable" and over 60 "role" choices.
The groups the member belongs to and the fetishes the member is "into" or "curious about" are displayed as part of the profile.
However as of January 2017, Fetlife has shut down the ability to create new groups.Fet Life is not dedicated to any particular sexual orientation or gender; everyone is welcome. During the summer of 2016, Fetlife altered its membership policies.While it was mistakenly thought the website would become invite-only, Fetlife administrators added an option to verify an account with an anonymous text message as an alternative to getting an invitation from an existing member.In addition, there is a separate "directory" of fetishes which a member may indicate his or her interest in. Any member can post an Event with date, location, cost, dress code, and other information.Location can be concealed and only revealed individually by the Event owner to participants. An age and location must be posted, but honesty is not required; there are many users who specify they are in "Antarctica", and many who give their age as 93.
At the same time they deleted hundreds of existing groups, including anything with the words blood, needles, rape and incest.