I should have known when I felt so connected to Alex in a way that I had never felt before that our strap-on was more than just a strap-on.
They told me that thanks to a couple of Women’s Studies classes that I had taken and shared the contents of, they had come to think of themselves over the past few months in a way that finally fit, in a way that being a girl never had.
If a cisgender person (man or woman) is attracted to genderqueer people, you would say that person is skoliosexual (see how much more inclusive these terms are?! So let me say again: genderqueer sexual orientation works just like cisgender sexual orientation works.
In fact, those “new terms for expressing sexual orientation” work just as well for cisgender people as they do for genderqueer people. But it can be simplified to be this simple, and it just was.
Androsexual/Androphilic: attracted to males, men, and/or masculinity Gynesexual/Gynephilic: attracted to females, women, and/or femininity Skoliosexual: attracted to genderqueer and transsexual people and expressions (people who aren’t identified as cisgender) Pansexual: attracted to all people, regardless of biological sex, gender identity, or expression Asexual/Nonsexual: no sexual attraction, but often romantic or spiritual attractions exist The terms presented above are far than the conventional terms for describing sexual orientation, but they are certainly not perfect.
You have to remember: identities are far too numerous to create a list or a graph or an article that describes them all.
Conventional terms to describe sexual orientation (hetero-, homo-, and bisexual) don’t work well outside of the cisgender world.I buy into the theory that attraction is the result of your subconscious interpretation of hormonal influences, and your ability to make sense of attraction is a result of your socialization and self-awareness.That is, attraction is largely out of your control, but how you make sense of it and act upon it is up to you.Before we talk about how sexual orientation “works” for genderqueer folks, which is a question I am (and I’m sure, many who identify as genderqueer are) asked on a regular basis, it’s important that we understand how attraction works.For a moment, stop thinking in terms of cisgender versus genderqueer, and instead think just think about attraction. There are a lot of theories on what drives attraction – or where it .
This understanding of attraction applies to cisgender folks and genderqueer folks.