Of Christians in general he said, "They that are of Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with the passions and the lusts thereof" (Galatians ). The New Testament Christian is not a person who has made his life a huge set of pigeon holes in which every matter can be classified as secular or spiritual.The whole life of a Christian is spiritual, and everything he does which involves conduct, attitude or relationships has spiritual significance.Courtship is basically, vitally concerned with such questions as, "How do I treat another person's feelings, emotions and body?Can I use another person in any manner I wish to fulfill my own selfish interest?" That is more than a good question; it is a necessary question.The answer to the question is not as obvious as some might think." All of these questions share one thing in common: each is a question concerning ethical decisions and moral responsibilities.That fact alone makes courtship a spiritual matter.
By what right can any person say a study of courtship is a spiritual study which deserves a place in a Christian's private studies or a place in the church's education program?A study of marriage is unquestionably a religious or spiritual topic.The New Testament gives definite emphasis to Christian marriage and is specific about Christian men and women's responsibility in marriage.It does not have a special "nonreligious" status nor an "innocence of youth" status which isolates it from Christian ethics and morals. A serious study of courtship is basically a study of Christian ethics.Basic courtship decisions are spiritual decisions of far-reaching significance and consequence. The words ethics and morality are common, familiar words everyone hears and many use.